Blame - 怪 - Guài
If failure results,
from working with others,
take care before
It is easy to see the faults of another;
concentrate on your own.
~inspired by Deng Ming-Dao
Some people fall into the habit of blaming others. Perhaps this is their weakness, or maybe we all are potentially susceptible. The list of scapegoats we can find for our misery is clever and endless, but are these attributions accurate? Are parents to blame? Teachers? The government? Demons!?
Some people even place the blame upon God (or Gods). If the difficult circumstances are external, then blame has no place. In those cases, the course of action is obvious: Neutralize the negative influence. When the problem comes from within, the solution must come from within. ~Deng
Before blaming your friends, family, or teachers for bad habits or shortsighted planning, remember that the man in the mirror holds the greatest responsibility.
Do not go too far, and blame yourself to such an extent that you lose your self-esteem. Okay, so you have a few flaws, but don't we all? Look at your shortcomings, and take steps to moderate these weaknesses and shore up your strengths. If you can sustain a dispassionate process, these should be sufficiently eliminated. You are not worthless if you continue to try to rise above your faults. You are worthless if you never try to perfect yourself. We all at once time possessed a pure, perfect core: this is where our special self dwells. What was once holy, can also become corrupt: no one is inherently worse than another. Through growth and decay, one may begin to gauge the goodness of an organism, or individual.
We are all on this planet together, seeking out what we each believe to be the pure self. When that spirit is finally reached, there will be no flaws, and no blame to go around.