Moss-covered Monk

Moss-covered Monk


Thursday, May 2, 2013

Delayed Daily Musing - May 1st, 2013 - Runaway - 逃亡的 - Táowáng de

Runaway - 逃亡的 - Táowáng de

To be called useless, constantly,
causes a collapse of self-worth.
No longer seeking achievement,
instead, the child tries to find alleviation
from the suffocating sorrow
of terrible isolation.
The parents bicker between themselves,
reproaching one another for being distant
but not realizing their own culpability.
Dwelling too much on money,

never considering the most important currency-
Loyalty cannot be forced;
innocence is lost
when ambition reigns.
Escaping across a burning bridge,
the child ventures forth
into a hostile world
without any way to retreat.

There was once a girl who was a talented student-athlete. She played the cello, ran for student president, and participated in countless extracurricular activities. It was not enough for her parents. They pushed her to spend her free time studying or in practice. Finally, she could stand it no more and ran away.

At first, her family was convinced that their daughter was kidnapped. When investigated, the case became far more complex. The girl pressed her case in court and was emancipated. She never spoke to her parents again.

Her parents fought each other over the right to place blame. They never realized the effect of the pressure placed upon their child. The girl was constantly told she was worthless, despite many chances to be given praise. Is it any wonder why she ran away? Her rebellion was the first act of individuality and it opened the way for her to grow. She could not have done so in the stifling, negative environment in which she was trapped. 

When parents demand obedience without fostering understanding, they thwart development. Forcing children to fulfill parental ambitions destroys potential for individuality. Before parents seek to place blame upon their children, they should look first at how they were raised.